That killer instinct

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Re: That killer instinct

Post by happy tiger » Fri 02 Mar, 2018 10:43 pm

momo&medo wrote:
Fri 02 Mar, 2018 2:34 pm
It’s hard as a parent to find the line between supportive comments and criticism of kids performance.
I often look back and regret saying things which may have taken some fun out of things for my kids.
I mean they were said in right spirit but it’s hard because you never really know how things are taken ..... and in a way could be interpreted as pushing too much. I think it’s best to leave that to the coach and as a parent, just stay positive and supportive.
Yeah I try and give advice to the young fella , ask him to set himself a particular goal

I would love to coach my son's side again , just very hard with work , I told the President of the club he finds me an 100 k job a year that works well I'm in :D

A lot of the Dads help the coaches out at various times and I'll usually go down Thursday arvo and if I see something I'll mention it to the coach , I'd never approach anyone one on one unless asked

I find the only time is the really close games when I can get excitable , and really only got mad parent's disease once , when I found out a elder brother of the opposition team ( he was wearing the club's pants as well ) was refereeing a semi final last season after overhearing the opposition supporters ......

It was really bad in the 2nd half , I actually ran over during a break in play down near a scrum and called our trainer over and told him , the boys in the last 5 minutes literally didn't pass the ball , went from dummy half so he couldn't pull them up for some of the ridiculous forward passes they were called for

Mrs is far worse than me :lol: , she turned around and looked the parents in the eye and said they should be embarrassed

I guess you only want to see things fair for your kids , but you know once they reach adulthood they will see that life has a way of showing us otherwise , especially when you live in a small town , if you don't have people in the know ......


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Post by LARDS » Sat 03 Mar, 2018 7:35 am

Telltails wrote:
Fri 02 Mar, 2018 7:10 am
gallagher wrote:
Fri 02 Mar, 2018 12:32 am
Just because you're good at something doesn't mean it's important to you.
You can only make yourself happy.
Bernard Tomic comes to mind.
And Moses suli

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Post by eyewonder » Sat 03 Mar, 2018 7:46 am

what a good thread.
the killer instinct comes from the parents push and the kids ability.
and being in the right place at the right time.

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Post by Cultured Bogan » Sat 03 Mar, 2018 8:30 am

Sport is simply recreation for some. Some kids might be naturally gifted but they don't place it on a pedestal. I was never going to be a star cricketer but even if I was good at it I was only ever in it to play the game for fun and to socialise.

A mate of mine could have easily played Sydney first grade, possibly state, but his heart was never in it.

Give your kids encouragement, and if they do develop that want to be the best in their sport, that's when the push and the home truths should some. If it's just a a bit of fun to them there's no need to drill win at all costs attitudes into them. Just because they have a lackadaisical attitude to sport it doesn't mean it will translate into every other facet of their lives.
And the sky is filled with light, can you see it?
And the black is really white, if you believe it.
And the longing that you feel, you know none of this is real;
You will find a better place, in this twilight...

Fuerza en la adversidad.

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