Mental Health Discussion

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GNR4LIFE said:
Idk if this is the right place for this, but considering it’s mental health related, it will do. I am really struggling right now. I don‘t know why, but I’m definitely not myself. Not to go into great detail, but my job performance has improved 200% the last 6 months and my boss is very happy. However for some reason I still don’t feel like it’s good enough and feel ashamed. Today is a good example of me not feeling myself. Usually if I find myself in a sparring match, I tend to give as good as I get. For some reason lately, any time anyone has had a go, I have found myself instead trying to de-escalate, which really is a good thing and should be a sign of maturity, and maybe that’s part of it. But also because I am in a frame of mind atm where I feel pretty fragile and getting into big arguments is not something I can deal with. I know after 11 years and 35 000 odd posts, it doesn’t leave much room for people to be on the fence in regards to you. You kind of build a reputation. And 99% of the time I’m fine with that. Lately though, idk why but it’s really affected me. And no hard feelings to anyone who has had a go at me lately. You can’t expect people to be mind readers when it comes to these things. And I’m not even saying they should stop. If anything, I feel like the onus is almost on the person who is struggling to step away if things are too much for them. Its cliche, like you can’t control other drivers on the road, you can’t control other people on the internet. Some might just not give a shit about whats going on with someone. Thats the way of the world. I’m really not fishing for attention or sympathy here, but society tells us over and over to speak up if you are not ok, so I’m speaking up. I’ll probably feel embarrassed in the morning waking up knowing I opened myself up like this, but atm i don’t care. If it encourages others to speak up if they aren‘t feeling ok either then that is a good thing.
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GNR, remember many employers have an employee assistance programme where you can speak with a counsellor. If you feel the need to do so, please take advantage of the service. It is good to know you are reaching out.
 
GNR4LIFE said:
Thanks guys. Yesterday wasn’t a good day. Feeling a bit better this morning, and I feel getting some stuff out in that post helped a bit. Cheers.
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My advice to you is this. Go get a gym membership and start lifting heavy shit. In time you will feel a million times better - get that natty test pumping through your body. Best cure for mental health.
 
GNR4LIFE said:
Thanks guys. Yesterday wasn’t a good day. Feeling a bit better this morning, and I feel getting some stuff out in that post helped a bit. Cheers.
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Good on you mate. Everyone can have their differences but at the end of the day we all joined this forum for the same reason
 
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Feel for the guys with genuine mental health problems. There's always people willing to help, just reach out.
People who play the card to get sympathy need to get sorted out
 
pawsandclaws1 said:
remember many employers have an employee assistance programme where you can speak with a counsellor. If you feel the need to do so, please take advantage of the service. It is good to know you are reaching out.
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I've used free counseling at work and I've called lifeline when I've been struggling. Life throws you shit sandwiches sometimes. I think we often just need outlets to express ourselves.
 
PJ said:
Feel for the guys with genuine mental health problems. There's always people willing to help, just reach out.
People who play the card to get sympathy need to get sorted out
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PJ I totally agree if one lies about a medical condition just to get attention then that is poor form.
If GNRs complaint is genuine then a Forum is not a place to get an expert opinion and treatment. It's good however to bounce things off someone who he feels comfortable with.
I disagree with someones post about not going to a specialist because of money, my specialist literally saved my life.
There are government assisted programs available to GNR if he wants to go down that path.
For over 20 years I've been on Epillum and Effexor which is essential. I tried stopping it once and my condition worsened.
I tried to contact GNR and he's not answering but it's obvious he's not due to our spats recently,
If your are reading this GNR, if you really have issues, see someone for God's sake and get some professional advise.
 
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PJ I totally agree if one lies about a medical condition just to get attention then that is poor form.
If GNRs complaint is genuine then a Forum is not a place to get an expert opinion and treatment. It's good however to bounce things off someone who he feels comfortable with.
I disagree with someones post about not going to a specialist because of money, my specialist literally saved my life.
There are government assisted programs available to GNR if he wants to go down that path.
For over 20 years I've been on Epillum and Effexor which is essential. I tried stopping it once and my condition worsened.
I tried to contact GNR and he's not answering but it's obvious he's not due to our spats recently,
If your are reading this GNR, if you really have issues, see someone for God's sake and get some professional advise.
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My company has programs in place, free of charge, that offer support.
Old mate should log off, go outside, spend some time w family until his heads in the right place.
Just because I don't like him doesn't mean I can't help.
 
Exactly PJ.
It's interesting how forums can help some people and others can exacerbate their condition.
For me personally it's great therapy.
No matter how right we think we are with our opinions the fact is it is just that, opinions.
It's ok to have an unsubstantiated opinion and express it, be vulnerable, be human, in my case I try to acknowledge when I'm wrong.
When more than person has told me to pull my head in then it's time to have a look at myself, re-evaluate.
I dad said to me several times 'there is an answer to everything, we just haven't found them all'
 
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Eyeofthetiger 0 said:
My advice to you is this. Go get a gym membership and start lifting heavy shit. In time you will feel a million times better - get that natty test pumping through your body. Best cure for mental health.
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I also find just a 1-2km walk does the same
Eating at the table over general discussion or playing cards for some reason seems to settle my anxiety
Definitely resist the habit of a screen when feeding down
It’s what I do
 
I visited my mother at a nursing home in Noosa last weekend. There was a chap (only 69) in the dementia ward with a Tigers hat on wandering around and a Tiger bedspread in his room.

I have sent one my unused scarfs and a few unused caps up to him via my sister. There must a few other club members getting a build up of surplus unused paraphernalia. I hate to see stuff lying around- Might I suggest sending to your local nursing home . Scarves etc may be appreciated.
 
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Hypothetically;

Trying so hard to be some one you're not on the forum for some weird kind of acceptance is bound to effect one's mental health when it isn't positively received.

Generally speaking.

Some advice we or most are given as children is: be yourself.

Most of the good advice is basic stuff we've been told our whole lives ; from... slip, slop, slap to don't stare into the sun. The most important things for our health, both physically and mentally are things we've had drummed into us since we could walk. "Look both ways before you cross the road".

Simple stuff yet the most beneficial in a sense...

I agree with my Gz : @PJ @Eyeofthetiger 0 and @Cobarcats with what they've posted...

If one is feeling a type of way, self reflect... seek help... do what needs to be done. You must take care of yourself the best way you can and at times that may be talking to some one or reaching out.

Treat others how you wish to be treated.
Heard that before eh?
Probably in kindergarten....
We already know this stuff.
 
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PJ said:
My company has programs in place, free of charge, that offer support.
Old mate should log off, go outside, spend some time w family until his heads in the right place.
Just because I don't like him doesn't mean I can't help.
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Yet you post absolute garbage on here about someone’s mental health. Your company must be a great place to be
 
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