upthetigers
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Unpopular opinion but I think Abigail is on the money.
Talking to a therapist about problems that seem impossible to solve often makes you feel worse. You need to focus on overcoming the problem instead of always thinking about "why" you feel a certain way.
I'd rather open up to a close friend then talk to a therapist.
Red88_Tiger
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Whether you’re talking to a friend,therapist or the gatepost the positive is your looking for a solution.
Betterdays22
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I think you and this person fundamentally misunderstand modern therapy interventions. Happy to send you stacks of research which shows how effective interventions like CBT are for things like clincial anxiety and depression (which actually aim to do exactly what you want them to do, help overcome problems).
But I agree, the best solutions are the ones that people generate and implement themselves and people should feel empowered to do so. In most cases having a supportive social or family network is a huge piece of the puzzle.
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upthetigers
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upthetigers
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This is what depression looks like...
It’s so hard to tell the signs when someone is struggling. You can look happy but be broken inside.
It’s so hard to tell the signs when someone is struggling. You can look happy but be broken inside.
strange thing depression , sometimes it your best friend ,maybe b4 then its best to part ways instead of sharing a 1sy
Look away , I'm that bloody angry, surgeon knocked me back on my nicotine count today for a shoulder reco . Anesthetist and somebody else were ok
Point being , i squealed like a pig ,there must be some equation ,target i need to be below . 11 months ago
Specialist told me to halve it , i did ,mostly,go cold turkey when surgery is flagged .i said
1 week from operation and every body becomes an expert
Nurse Joe is an anti smoker told me to go doctor shopping or get my count under 50 with no guarantee he would be happy with that
Plenty of positives ,but old man screams at clouds
Point being , i squealed like a pig ,there must be some equation ,target i need to be below . 11 months ago
Specialist told me to halve it , i did ,mostly,go cold turkey when surgery is flagged .i said
1 week from operation and every body becomes an expert
Nurse Joe is an anti smoker told me to go doctor shopping or get my count under 50 with no guarantee he would be happy with that
Plenty of positives ,but old man screams at clouds
Take it easy on yourself, surgery isn’t a small thing. Thinking of you 🤗 Wishing you a smooth surgery and recovery. Try to stay away from negativity and keep in a good headspace. Sending love 🤍🙏
I had to have a bone graft surgery on my scaphoid (wrist) about 20 years back...surgeon was a pompous wankr but it took his assistent to explain to me why smoking want helpful for wrist surgery...it kills all the minute blood vessels that assist in healing
So now part of my pelvis is in my wrist...it was a non union fracture it had been fractured for some time but still worked ok...just ached when rain was imminent...this was back when.i was drinking ..now its arthritic
So now part of my pelvis is in my wrist...it was a non union fracture it had been fractured for some time but still worked ok...just ached when rain was imminent...this was back when.i was drinking ..now its arthritic
