Slight detour…
I have a friend that’s going through a divorce. He has 2 young children and his ex is using the system in every way to her advantage.
You never know all the details, but in this situation my friends and I could see the relationship was really bad right from the start. Unfortunately the relationship lasted, they got married had kids etc
She’s probably what a therapist would diagnose a narcissist; her mother too. They gang up on him, gaslight him and record his reaction, deliberately trying to drive him mad then get evidence of his behaviour. She uses access to the kids as leverage to get things she wants, and goes on social media and talks about how she’s a victim of domestic violence. The irony is that she’s the only one that’s ever been physically abusive, and she’s emotionally abusive to the kids and my friend.
My friend has told me he’s afraid to tell people of the situation as he’s worried people will automatically assume he’s a domestic violence perpetrator being a male.
She’s demanded he only gets to 2, 2 hour visits a week, and he’s followed his lawyers advice to go long with this; they say the courts won’t look kindly, especially given there’s overwhelming evidence that he’s a great dad and she’s extremely manipulative.
What’s my point? you never really know a situation - May may not be guilty. I know it’s a taboo topic, but I’ve seen first hand how this can play out.
Having said that, if he’s guilty of the allegations I wouldn’t touch him with a ten foot pole.