That killer instinct

happy_tiger

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I often wonder why some people have it and some don't

My daughter was at rep trials for netball yesterday and another parent's daughter said she was as good a player as her daughter but lacks that drive to do whatever it takes to win/succeed

My son is the same he loves the game of rugby league but just doesn't have the absolute drive to succeed at the game , despite probably being as talented as many others

So as usual , their is a question at the end , why don't some have the killer want to succeed and how do you develop it ??
 
Happy I think it comes out for everyone in the right context mate, but it has to be driven first and foremost by the indivuals desire for success.

I never had the talent or the drive in sport. In other areas of my life though I would practice basic skills for hours and hours to make sure I was the best I could be, I think the hard thing for young people is figuring out what is going to make them tick in that way.

It could be something else entirely, just speaking from my own experience and my interactions at work with 100 or so young people aged around 20.
 
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I often wonder why some people have it and some don't

My daughter was at rep trials for netball yesterday and another parent's daughter said she was as good a player as her daughter but lacks that drive to do whatever it takes to win/succeed

My son is the same he loves the game of rugby league but just doesn't have the absolute drive to succeed at the game , despite probably being as talented as many others

So as usual , their is a question at the end , why don't some have the killer want to succeed and how do you develop it ??

Too many cuddles from mum …
 
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Happy I think it comes out for everyone in the right context mate, but it has to be driven first and foremost by the indivuals desire for success.

I never had the talent or the drive in sport. In other areas of my life though I would practice basic skills for hours and hours to make sure I was the best I could be, I think the hard thing for young people is figuring out what is going to make them tick in that way.

It could be something else entirely, just speaking from my own experience and my interactions at work with 100 or so young people aged around 20.

I work with a lot of young kids and try to say to them if you are going to do something do it to your best of your ability every time

Whether you are good or not doesn't matter , but to have the pride in what you've done and know you couldn't have done anything more
 
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Happy I think it comes out for everyone in the right context mate, but it has to be driven first and foremost by the indivuals desire for success.

I never had the talent or the drive in sport. In other areas of my life though I would practice basic skills for hours and hours to make sure I was the best I could be, I think the hard thing for young people is figuring out what is going to make them tick in that way.

It could be something else entirely, just speaking from my own experience and my interactions at work with 100 or so young people aged around 20.

I work with a lot of young kids and try to say to them if you are going to do something do it to your best of your ability every time

Whether you are good or not doesn't matter , but to have the pride in what you've done and know you couldn't have done anything more

When kids get to a certain age You tell them the truth !
No point mollycoddling them ..

Just like You see some kids playing footy that should be learning real estate .
 
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Happy I think it comes out for everyone in the right context mate, but it has to be driven first and foremost by the indivuals desire for success.

I never had the talent or the drive in sport. In other areas of my life though I would practice basic skills for hours and hours to make sure I was the best I could be, I think the hard thing for young people is figuring out what is going to make them tick in that way.

It could be something else entirely, just speaking from my own experience and my interactions at work with 100 or so young people aged around 20.

I work with a lot of young kids and try to say to them if you are going to do something do it to your best of your ability every time

Whether you are good or not doesn't matter , but to have the pride in what you've done and know you couldn't have done anything more

When kids get to a certain age You tell them the truth !
No point mollycoddling them ..

Just like You see some kids playing footy that should be learning real estate .

Did that , now he is a Cowboys supporter :laughing:
 
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Happy I think it comes out for everyone in the right context mate, but it has to be driven first and foremost by the indivuals desire for success.

I never had the talent or the drive in sport. In other areas of my life though I would practice basic skills for hours and hours to make sure I was the best I could be, I think the hard thing for young people is figuring out what is going to make them tick in that way.

It could be something else entirely, just speaking from my own experience and my interactions at work with 100 or so young people aged around 20.

I work with a lot of young kids and try to say to them if you are going to do something do it to your best of your ability every time

Whether you are good or not doesn't matter , but to have the pride in what you've done and know you couldn't have done anything more

When kids get to a certain age You tell them the truth !
No point mollycoddling them ..

Just like You see some kids playing footy that should be learning real estate .

Did that , now he is a Cowboys supporter :laughing:

:roll

My young bloke trains in his Panther Cubs Jersey !
Can't blame him really :laughing:
 
Just because you're good at something doesn't mean it's important to you.
You can only make yourself happy.
 
Some kids find their passion early…as gall said just cause youre good at something doesnt mean its important.
Some dont find their thing til much later in life
 
You have either got it or you don't…....if you want to succeed in anything,you have to have the want and interest.....no good trying to be the best at something if you haven't got the ability.....doing your BEST to achieve something .....is an honest outcome....
 
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I often wonder why some people have it and some don't

My daughter was at rep trials for netball yesterday and another parent's daughter said she was as good a player as her daughter but lacks that drive to do whatever it takes to win/succeed

My son is the same he loves the game of rugby league but just doesn't have the absolute drive to succeed at the game , despite probably being as talented as many others

So as usual , their is a question at the end , why don't some have the killer want to succeed and how do you develop it ??

I think everyone likes to be the best and win.
However there is the question as to whether a person meets all the difficult requirements to reach the top.

- Nartrual ability and talent is essential.
- Good character should form the platform.
- Dedication and bloody mid set to the task at hand
- willingness to take advice and learn
- leadership qualities and sense of control
- Healthy mind and body
- Killer instinct comes in there somewhere ….. but sometimes can be counterproductive as you can loose the sense of control which you must maintain.
 
Parents play a big role in which type of sportsman the kids become. I'd say less than 33% of kids are playing sport for themselves, and the rest are simply trying to have fun & make their parents proud of them.

Through coaching, one thing I identified early is that talent doesnt lead to success and there is a clear distinction between the kids who are 'playing sport' and those who are 'competing to win'.

Happy, if your kids arent playing sport for themselves, they may never have the competitive approach you are looking for. If they are, give them access to mentors who will display good work ethic away from the park and are humble.

Dont be that parent who only talks about the glory boys. Talk about those boys at your club who stayed back after training and would do extra sprints etc while you were having a beer in the club house. I always remember Darren Smith doing this and we would always be telling him he is making us look bad. Well, we know the rest of that story…
 
It’s hard as a parent to find the line between supportive comments and criticism of kids performance.
I often look back and regret saying things which may have taken some fun out of things for my kids.
I mean they were said in right spirit but it’s hard because you never really know how things are taken ….. and in a way could be interpreted as pushing too much. I think it’s best to leave that to the coach and as a parent, just stay positive and supportive.
 
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It’s hard as a parent to find the line between supportive comments and criticism of kids performance.
I often look back and regret saying things which may have taken some fun out of things for my kids.
I mean they were said in right spirit but it’s hard because you never really know how things are taken ….. and in a way could be interpreted as pushing too much. I think it’s best to leave that to the coach and as a parent, just stay positive and supportive.

Yeah I try and give advice to the young fella , ask him to set himself a particular goal

I would love to coach my son's side again , just very hard with work , I told the President of the club he finds me an 100 k job a year that works well I'm in :smiley:

A lot of the Dads help the coaches out at various times and I'll usually go down Thursday arvo and if I see something I'll mention it to the coach , I'd never approach anyone one on one unless asked

I find the only time is the really close games when I can get excitable , and really only got mad parent's disease once , when I found out a elder brother of the opposition team ( he was wearing the club's pants as well ) was refereeing a semi final last season after overhearing the opposition supporters …...

It was really bad in the 2nd half , I actually ran over during a break in play down near a scrum and called our trainer over and told him , the boys in the last 5 minutes literally didn't pass the ball , went from dummy half so he couldn't pull them up for some of the ridiculous forward passes they were called for

Mrs is far worse than me :laughing: , she turned around and looked the parents in the eye and said they should be embarrassed

I guess you only want to see things fair for your kids , but you know once they reach adulthood they will see that life has a way of showing us otherwise , especially when you live in a small town , if you don't have people in the know ......
 
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