Its at the point now officials decide matches. Its every week and every match. The game is basically orchestrated.
I agree with you, but maybe not about the specifics.
Officials are deciding matches on the smaller calls like uneven six-agains, imbalanced leniency and interpretations, etc. Some games, within the first 10 minutes, it is obvious which team the ref expects to win and their cognitive bias, or whatever it is, is clear even to an objective observer.
BUT... on the big calls, it's often taken out of their hands. For example, Ponga's tackle on Koula was direct contact to the head (whether shoulder or his own head) and resulted in a player being rubbed out of the game. Under the rules and the focus on protecting players from concussion or protecting the game from being sued in the future, this is a send-off.
I also agreed that Sualii's head contact with Walsh a few series ago was a send-off. The game has to protect the players, but also they have to be SEEN to be coming down hard on such foul play. Not only for player welfare and protecting the game but so parents watching can see that shot is being treated seriously and eradicated from the game so they feel safer for their kids to play.
This wasn't a howler by a ref that changed the game, this was a howler by a player that resulted in a send-off that changed the game. The onus must be on the player here. Ponga had no need to go high. He could have got lower and pole-axed Koula and we'd all be talking about what a great hit it was. But he was lazy, and also scared, went for a shoulder charge while the player's arms were pinned, and it went bad.
The ref made the only logical call in the larger context of this game.