Mental Health Discussion

[BAGNF05]

In answer to your question mate,I think they have councellors available,and these people may refer them to a phsycologist if they may be to overburdened...not real sure but now apparently with Drs for HIAs etc the NRL are caring more these days about player health,Im sure they would look at all aspects of health,as far as mind coaches go,that would be up to the individual to choose if need be....

They may also get consultants in. I know Ashton Sims went into this line of work as he presented to a local league meeting I attended.

 

[Needaname]

May as well close the forum down then.

I don’t mean having a forum for discussion indirectly between fans or viewers. I mean directly reaching out to players to criticise them or harass.
Mediums like Twitter and Instagram are the worst for it as people will go out of their way to post on the players profile or tag them into their comments.
I agree that the scrutiny comes with being a part of being a footballer and most are immune to it. However everyone is different and may handle things differently.

 

[Tim Sheens]

We don’t know what anyone is going through mate. But I’m not going to stop critiquing footy players because they may have something going on. When they signed their contract they agreed to have their football performance under the microscope. If someone is suffering I’d expect their club to get them help and a break from the game would be the best course of action imo.

Crap on here and similar sites is one thing, whereas nobody should be attacking players directly on their individual accounts, with the possible exception of deliberate punishable acts.

That is one area where both government and platforms have responsibilities in not allowing people attacking another with bile directly over a sporting or other performance.

 

[BAGNF05]

Crap on here and similar sites is one thing, whereas nobody should be attacking players directly on their individual accounts, with the possible exception of deliberate punishable acts.

That is one area where both government and platforms have responsibilities in not allowing people attacking another with bile directly over a sporting or other performance.

Yep, attacking anyone is not on. Players can (and should) avoid public forums.

 

[BAGNF05]

I don’t mean having a forum for discussion indirectly between fans or viewers. I mean directly reaching out to players to criticise them or harass.
Mediums like Twitter and Instagram are the worst for it as people will go out of their way to post on the players profile or tag them into their comments.
I agree that the scrutiny comes with being a part of being a footballer and most are immune to it. However everyone is different and may handle things differently.

Yeah agree mate, no reason to reach out to a player directly unless you’re hunting an autograph

 

[gallagher]

Crap on here and similar sites is one thing, whereas nobody should be attacking players directly on their individual accounts, with the possible exception of deliberate punishable acts.

That is one area where both government and platforms have responsibilities in not allowing people attacking another with bile directly over a sporting or other performance.

I got no idea why a player would have a public account. Just have a private one.

 

[Tim Sheens]

I got no idea why a player would have a public account. Just have a private one.

For the plenty of decent people of the world. I do though understand your point when there are so many ignorant twats around waiting with thumbs or keyboards, to then attack others that have no tangible affect on their or the community's lives at every opportunity.

 

[upthetigers]

Been a really shitty week but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger as they say.

 

[Merlot]

Been a really shitty week but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger as they say.

be kind to yourselves folks,were all a minute from madness at times, its normal

 

[upthetigers]

be kind to yourselves folks,were all a minute from madness at times, its normal

nothing is constant I still see light at the end of the tunnel

 

[Merlot]

how are we all folks,enough sunshine between the rain to stay on the up n up.just got over a full moon and all.giddy up

 

[upthetigers]

how are we all folks,enough sunshine between the rain to stay on the up n up.just got over a full moon and all.giddy up

tigers winning is the best antidepressant you can ever have

 

[matchball]

Take a laxative followed by a coffee enema course. Feel good as new and you'll pass meat you ate a decade ago.
Digestive health is the key to a healthy mind.

 

[Buttface]

be kind to yourselves folks,were all a minute from madness at times, its normal

That’s the first time I have understood what you are saying.
Some of your posts are like a brain teezer for me, I like em still.

 

[upthetigers]

*Taken from YouTube but this needs to be shared*

As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of:

-Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great

-Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks")

-Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed

-Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it

-Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model.

-Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually.

-Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose.

-Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves

-Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor.

-Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it

-Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs.

I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful.

The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going."

Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence.

You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.

 

[PJ2]

For the plenty of decent people of the world. I do though understand your point when there are so many ignorant twats around waiting with thumbs or keyboards, to then attack others that have no tangible affect on their or the community's lives at every opportunity.

I have a gaming keyboard. I am always ready to go to war.
I don't say anything online that I wouldn't say in person.

I have never understood online abuse. You can always turn it off?

 

[TieDye]

*Taken from YouTube but this needs to be shared*

As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of:

-Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great

-Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks")

-Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed

-Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it

-Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model.

-Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually.

-Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose.

-Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves

-Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor.

-Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it

-Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs.

I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful.

The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going."

Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence.

You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.

Thank you, @upthetigers some beautiful sentiments.

 

[upthetigers]

Thank you, @upthetigers some beautiful sentiments.

If it helps one person it's worth sharing mate

 

[TieDye]

If it helps one person it's worth sharing mate

Absolutely! I honest to God feel the exact same way, we need living and learning not to ignore and forget

 

[Cobarcats]

Thank you, @upthetigers some beautiful sentiments.

Mate that article reflects 10 years of councelling that I had when I was struggling with depression and anxiety.
A couple of sheets of bubble wrap also help with anxiety 🤣